Category: Writing

Karma and Other Bad Reasons to Become A Vegetarian

I was a vegetarian for half of my 20s. At that time, to me being a vegetarian simply meant you were on a diet, and I was never not on a diet. Being a vegetarian was especially convenient when sitting in a restaurant with a bunch of people, where I would be under peer pressure to participate in eating activities.… Read more →

How to Find the Important People in Your Life

There are two opposite camps when it comes to how to find those who will end up playing a large role in your life– the mentor, the mate, the good boss, the investor in your venture, the dog walker who’ll keep your neurotic pup exhausted. (Not necessarily in that order of importance.) Some say you need to be proactive, as… Read more →

My 7 Day Gratitude Challenge

Want to feel happier? Try thinking of something you’re grateful for every day when you get up and when you go to bed. It’s very effective and sounds so simple. But for most of us I believe this is probably easier said than done. Not because it’s difficult to give thanks, but because it requires a little discipline to make… Read more →

What to Do When You Don’t Like Your Job

It’s wonderful to follow your calling and chase your dreams.  But what if your current job is not your calling and you are just not ready for a drastic change, yet? The good news is you don’t have to feel stuck. On this week’s BananaOnFire, I share with you three tips to make the most out of the job you’re… Read more →

What Being Spiritual is NOT about

On this week’s BananaOnFire, I give you a tour around my altar at home. It used to be my favorite place in the house and I thought things I placed on there symbolized what being spiritual was all about. I couldn’t be more wrong. When we identify with the rituals, the tools, the belief system of our spirituality too much,… Read more →

The Jolly Good Fellow’s Account of Reincarnation

Last week I went to visit my friend Frances in the stunning Mount Shasta. The trip spurred many a dropped jaw at the wonder of nature, and — surprise, surprise– a new appreciation of reincarnation, which I’m going to tell you now.   On the second morning of the trip, after the previous day’s intensive hike in the mountains, I… Read more →

How the Law of Attraction “Really” Works

Law of attraction offers the glitzing hope that you can manipulate the Universe into giving you what you want by playing simple tricks. That’s why it’s so popular— it caters to the human instinct to control the future and makes our ego feel almightily powerful. But does it really work? The answer is yes and no. Yes, because the magic… Read more →

The Divine Protection You Don’t Need

Four years ago, I went to my first Hindu ceremony honoring one of the major goddesses. I forgot which one, as those Hindu goddesses all look quite the same to me. (I seriously suspect they are all the same woman sporting different hair-dos and dress codes.) The ceremony— they call it a “puja”— lasted for a long time. Or maybe… Read more →

How to Make Someone Love You

It’s a full-time job that most of us do 24 hours a day and 7 days a week– to make other people love us. You may not realize what you are doing. But in fact, the charming personality, shining achievements, and amazing good look are mostly useless except that they serve one purpose– to make others love us. To be… Read more →

20 Reasons Why You Should be A Misfit

Being a misfit carries countless benefits, including… You never need to worry about fitting in— it’s obvious you never will. People can’t ignore you— getting hit by a car is impossible. Your provide gossip materials for others— saving the world from boredom. Endangered species love you— you’re one of them after all. People think you’re original— but actually you’re just being you.… Read more →

Women, Own Your Freedom!

A while ago, I bumped into a friend at a lunch party. She’s about my age, has recently got married and had a baby. My friend introduced me to her senior colleague— let’s all her Angela— a stylish, beautiful woman in her mid 40s. I liked Angela immediately and we struck up a conversation. After she left us to get… Read more →

Why Being Professional Sucks and How to Correct It

If you ever want to be more than mediocre in your career, then being professional is useless. I’m not talking about having the skills and know-hows to do your job. I’m talking about acting like a faceless, paper-thin business character out of an amateur novel, a behavior you’ll most likely recognize if you’ve spent anytime in an established corporation. If… Read more →

7 Signs You’re Experiencing Major Spiritual Awakening

(Art by Julia Watkins) Life has thrown suffering your way and propelled you on a truth-seeking path. There’s no turning back. If you’re anything like me, you’ve meditated, gone to workshops, read books, listened to the masters. You’ve healed your past-life traumas and embraced your shadows. You’ve been feeling incrementally better, and theoretically wiser. Because you’re almost a spiritual Wikipedia… Read more →

Finding Love the Easy Way

Have you ever felt finding love difficult? Have you ever felt all your hard work in pursuit of a loving, lasting relationship seems futile? Have you ever wondered, in a heartbreaking moment, if there’s anything wrong with you and if that special person is ever going to show up at all? Well, good news: you’re not crazy. If finding love… Read more →

The Folly of Positive Thinking

Positive thinking works. Until it doesn’t. Overwrite the negative thoughts with positive, hopeful thoughts. Replace the destructive, victimizing crap you tell yourself with confidence-boosting pep talks. As a result, happiness is enhanced and peace of mind strengthened. Who knows, maybe you can even “think (positively) and grow rich” or “attract what you want with (positive) thought waves”, as well-meaning motivational… Read more →

A Day of Nothingness

I’m in Rome! It’s nice and crowded here. And in this video I answer three questions while wandering the streets of the Eternal City: 1. Why you shouldn’t stay in a hotel. 2. Why a healthy dose of messiness is good for your brain. 3. How to get nothing done (it’s harder than you think). Special thanks to Annalisa Morelli,… Read more →

Choosing Trust

Being cynical is easy. It takes no effort on your part. Disillustionment is our instinctual response to disappointment. It’s a handy protection and an efficient way to navigate a world that is, and always will be, full of disappointments. The only problem is this: Cynicism doesn’t make you happy. It will make you look cool in selected demographic groups. It… Read more →

How to Have An Eating Disorder Like A Pro

I had an eating disorder when I was in college. It forever changed my relationship with my body and with food. No, it wasn’t fun. But just like most other bad things that happen in life, it’s a blessing in disguise, or at least you can make it one if you so choose. Now I look fondly at my younger… Read more →